Early morning and I am already in my time-out chair. I woke up this morning feeling hopeful that my son will be a little easier to deal with. NOT!!! Breakfast is usually the easiest time to get him to eat because he will eat whatever I give him. Not this morning. This morning, he decided that he will give his breakfast a little nibble, and then go off to play. Well, this mommy has a hard enough time to get him to eat his meals for the rest of the day that she's not willing to take no for an answer. But my son was firm in saying that his done. He looked me straight in the eye and told me, "no breakfast mommy." I have no clue when he learned it, but this morning, he's become defiant. From the beginning, I know that he is headstrong...like his daddy. But at two??? I am just at a lost.
For the rest of the day, I kept busy and so did he. When nap time came, I asked him to get on the bed and lie down with me so he can take a nap. My little guy who was busy playing on the carpet, stood up, and with a straight face, looked me in the eye and said, "no nap." I wanted to yell, wanted to drag him to his room, and just let him cry until he passes out. But after my rant about anger yesterday, I decided that today, I will not succumb to my blinding anger. So I walked away, got myself a coke. Chewed on my lip for 5 minutes, too a deep breath, and went back to tell him to go to his room. He didn't go to his room, went to my bed instead, but quietly snuggled with me until he drifted off to sleep. Yes, my son is getting defiant when he wants to, but today, I also learned that maybe if I respond to him differently, that I might actually get him to listen to me. It's a thought that's probably worth exploring. Thanks to my friend Serina, I saw this article, which I might try: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/the-orange-rhino/10-things-i-learned-when-i-stopped-yelling_b_2886161.html
For now, I will try to curb his defiance but taking my own time outs and hope that it makes me calmer when I deal with him. Hopefully, my little guy will cooperate. Here's to hoping.
My first daughter was so well behaved but my second is quite the opposite. She s a much more difficult child to handle. I worry often what her defiant attitude as a toddler means for when she s older.
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